CBT stands for cognitive behavioral therapy, and was originally pioneered by Beck in the 1960′s, a few years after Ellis pioneered a remarkably similar style of therapy called Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT) in 1955. DBT stands for dialectical behavioral therapy and is a modified form of CBT developed by Marsha Linehan in the 70′s as a direct result of her own mental illness, and originally used to treat borderline personality disorder. Linehan has since said that DBT can be considered CBT since CBT has so readily absorbed many of the concepts. Mindfulness-based cognitive behavioral therapy is yet another iteration of CBT and was developed to treat major depressive disorder in the 1990′s and incorporates mindfulness techniques and meditation.
@Mytherapist uses REBT as the Ellis style already included concepts of the other three, the main concept being a radical acceptance of reality (unconditional self acceptance, unconditional other acceptance and unconditional life acceptance). This involves being “mindful” of your thoughts and emotions, but noticing them out of scientific curiosity, and working to not react or identify too much with extreme thoughts/emotions and letting them pass. In a Buddhist guided meditation, I once heard meditation described as the practice of the absence of thought like water in a glass. But even water in a glass is going to have a bubble every now and then. This is a thought/feeling. Notice it, but don’t chase it. It will pass. REBT involves noticing what the thoughts are that keep you feeling down, then vigorously and consistently challenging those thoughts by examining the evidence and implementing new thoughts based on proof. Once you have a handle on your new thoughts, you then create some experiments for yourself to prove that your new way of thinking is more helpful and constructive than your original unhealthy thoughts and the unhealthy negative emotions and behaviors that came with them. Thoughts, feelings and behaviors are what they are - this is the radical acceptance part. They aren’t good or bad, only human and constructive for your long-term existence on the planet or destructive, working towards your own goals.
I look at therapy like learning a language. Different teachers will use different tools to help you learn the language, and what is effective for one person might not be as effective for someone else with a different learning style. Ultimately, if you want to try therapy, choose a therapist who you connect with and who can give you some tangible results and some sort of measurement of your progress rather than choosing a therapist based on the latest buzzwords you might see in the media. (Remember when rebirthing was a thing? Or conversion therapy/reparative therapy?) This site has a whole list of therapy styles considered quack therapies.
Dr. Michael DeMarco of @mytherapist New York offers individual psychotherapy, couples counseling, open relationship coaching and sex therapy that is modern, effective and affordable in Manhattan, NYC.